Recently, while chatting with a few friends, the topic of love came up, and I noticed that everyone had their share of confusions and insights. As someone who has been through it, I'd like to share my perspective, especially on how ordinary guys can pursue love and what girls should be mindful of in relationships.
Firstly, when it comes to ordinary guys pursuing love, many might feel they don't have anything special to attract girls. However, attractiveness doesn't necessarily stem from being outstanding but from what makes you different. For instance, I have a friend who loves cooking and often posts pictures of his culinary creations on social media, which has caught the attention of many girls. This is the allure of being different. So, don't think that being ordinary means you have nothing to showcase; find what sets you apart, and that's your shining point.
Now, let's talk about what girls should pay attention to in relationships. I believe the most important thing is not to lose oneself in love. Some girls, once in a relationship, pour all their attention onto their boyfriends, wanting to be together 24/7. This not only puts pressure on the guy but also causes the girl to lose her sense of self. I have a classmate who lived with her boyfriend for four years, doing all the cooking, cleaning, and even washing his feet, only to end up being dumped. She asked me, "I treated him so well, why did he leave me?" In reality, love is a two-way street; excessive giving only makes the other person take it for granted rather than cherish it.
Another point is to protect oneself. Pre-marital cohabitation is quite common nowadays, but I still advise girls not to move in together too early before fully understanding who the other person is. Even if you do cohabit, make sure to take protective measures to avoid unexpected pregnancies. Because once pregnant, it"s often the girl who gets hurt. I've heard of many cases where the guy decides to marry the girl after she gets pregnant, but because he feels she has no choice but to marry, he skimps on the dowry and the wedding is very simple. Such marriages, from the start, lack respect, and the girl's position in them is questionable.
In summary, whether you"re a guy or a girl, it's important to maintain your sense of self in a relationship, not to over-give or over-depend. Love is a process of mutual giving; only an equal relationship can last. I hope my sharing can be of help to everyone, and I wish everyone can find their own happiness.