Recently, while chatting with friends, I realized that many of us feel quite lost when it comes to relationships. Girls often feel they give too much, while boys find it hard to pursue girls. In fact, love can be both challenging and simple; the key is understanding some "unspoken rules."
Let's talk about girls first. I have a close friend who used to be very insecure in her relationships, changing herself for her partner and ultimately losing her own identity. Later, she realized that the most important thing in a relationship is to be true to oneself. As qshw76 mentioned in the comments, being honest with each other is crucial. Don't give up your interests and dreams just to please someone else; maintaining independence and confidence is the way to go.
Another point is that girls should learn to value themselves. Don"t easily give up your principles and bottom line for someone. I've seen too many girls compromise in relationships, only to be disrespected in the end. Remember, your dignity and rights are non-negotiable.
Now, let"s talk about boys. Many boys find it hard to pursue girls because they are too hasty. As mentioned in the article, boys with low emotional intelligence rush to confess their feelings as soon as they like a girl, often leading to rejection. Boys with high emotional intelligence, on the other hand, take their time to develop the relationship and confess when the time is right. A commenter named "Er Lei" said that after being rejected, the relationship becomes lukewarm. Indeed, after a failed confession, pursuing a girl becomes much more difficult.
Therefore, boys should learn to control the pace when pursuing a girl. Don"t confess your feelings right away; start as friends and gradually build the relationship. As "Lei Te" mentioned, the process of finding a girlfriend should be: initial acquaintance, ordinary friends, close friends, intimate stage, and finally, a confirmed romantic relationship. Patience is key; relationships need time to develop.
Another point is that boys shouldn"t overdo it when trying to please a girl. She knows your intentions well, but if she's not ready to accept you, excessive flattery will only make her avoid you. It's better to wait until your relationship is stable before showing her your affection.
In summary, the most important thing in a relationship is to be genuine and honest. Whether you"re a girl or a boy, learn to love yourself, respect each other, and gradually build the relationship. Don't rush or compromise yourself. Only then can you find the person who truly suits you.
Finally, I'd like to share a quote I really like: "Not making mistakes is the best skill." I hope everyone can avoid detours in love and find their own happiness.
